Most of us know, or have known, at least one person who intimidates us. It could be someone we went to school with, a coworker, a boss, a sibling, or one of our parents. The idea of them can awaken fear in our hearts and minds. If it’s someone from our past, even the thought of them can bring back old emotions.
Being afraid of a person doesn’t always mean that we are in fear for our personal safety, although that is a possibility.
Insecurity causes us to intentionally make ourselves “smaller” around people who intimidate us. We don’t want to get in their way or offend them. This is because we’re afraid of how they’ll react if we “step out of line” in their eyes. However, if we’re afraid to step out of line around them, doesn’t that mean we are allowing other people to set the boundaries for our lives? So, what we’re actually afraid of is their rejection.
This fear of rejection is what causes our insecurity. We are so concerned with earning the approval of people that even the idea of someone not liking us, or even just something about us, can set our thoughts and emotions on a downward spiral. So, we mold ourselves to meet another person’s standards.
This puts us into an exhausting cycle of earning, losing and striving to regain man’s approval. We are putting ourselves under the control of other people, our own fear, and ultimately the devil, because fear originated with him.
By knowing that we are loved by our heavenly Father.
It may sound too simple, but God doesn’t make things complicated for His children.
“There is no fear in love; but perfect love casts out fear,” (1 John 4:18a).
When we know we are loved by the Creator of the universe, approval of man begins to lose its appeal.
If you are trapped in a cycle of insecurity I encourage you to start saying “I am loved by God,” every time you feel that fear is trying to overtake you. Allow the love of God to drive out fear, so you can live in the peace and confidence that His love brings.