We are all carrying, or have carried, hurts from our past. If we let them, these wounds have the power to influence our decisions for the rest of our lives. We give our pain this power when we are continually thinking about it, replaying it in our minds or coming up with ways that it could have been avoided.
What this does is keep the wound open. It could have happened twenty years ago and be as fresh in our minds as if it happened a month ago.
It may sound like this is the opposite of a hardened heart, but it isn’t. This is one of the definitions of a hardened heart, because a hard heart is one that is unresponsive to God. When we are more responsive to our pain than our heavenly Father, our heart is hard.
In this case we could say that our heart is cold. That’s what our pain does to us, it makes us cold. We turn inward and focus on protecting ourselves from ever being hurt again, and in the process, we miss out on the blessings of God.
We stop giving our pain influence and power in our lives when we turn away from it. If we’re going to turn away from it we have to turn to something else. What is that something else? Jesus.
Hebrews 12:2a says, “fixing our eyes on Jesus, the author and perfecter of faith.”
As long as we are fixing our eyes on our pain, it will continue to have power over us. We should fix our eyes on Him. When our focus is on Jesus our healer, our hearts will be healed.
We will no longer identify with our loss, tragedies and missed opportunities. We will identify with our righteousness in Christ.
It all starts with turning away from the mistakes and pain of the past and toward our loving Savior, Jesus Christ.