Any disappointment we have experienced or are experiencing is not from God.
He did not decide that our lives were going too smoothly and we needed to face some hard times so we could stay in touch with reality. However, we make the mistake of thinking that God puts disappointment and hardships on us.
“Let no one say when he is tempted, ‘I am being tempted by God’; for God cannot be tempted by evil, and He Himself does not tempt anyone,” (James 1:13 NASB).
The danger of disappointment is allowing it to change what we believe about God.
When we continually experience failure and disappointment it can be easy to believe that it must be our path in life to never succeed. When we hear that God has a great plan for our lives we can begin to think that it must only be true for other people.
This is an example of letting external experiences harden our heart toward God.
Instead of building the foundation for our faith on the Word of God, we build it on the shaky ground of our negative experiences. We do this because we are more in tune with our emotions and our five physical senses than we are to God our Father.
If we allow this kind of hardened heart to rule our lives we will never walk in the good works that God has prepared for us to walk in, (Ephesians 2:10).
Jesus explains this in the Parable of the Talents.
In the parable there is a rich master and he is leaving on a long trip. Before he leaves he gives talents, or money, to three of his servants. He gives the first servant ten talents, the second servant five talents and the third servant one talent.
The first two servants go immediately to the market and double their money. The third servant digs a hole and buries his talent in the ground.
After a long time the master returns and settles accounts with his three servants. The first two show him that they have doubled what they were given. The master tells them to enter into his joy. He comes to the third servant to see what he has done with his talent.
The third servant says this, “Master, I knew you to be a hard man, reaping where you did not sow and gathering where you scattered no seed. And I was afraid, and went away and hid your talent in the ground. See, you have what is yours,” (Matthew 25:24-25).
Why did the third servant hide his talent?
Look at what he said, “I knew you to be a hard man.” The parable gives no evidence that the master is evil or vindictive. The servant comes to this conclusion on his own.
This servant had the same opportunity as the other two servants. He could have gone to the market and doubled his money. However, he was afraid of failure because he was afraid of his master.
He missed his calling because he had a wrong belief about his master.
If we allow our experiences of disappointment to shape what we believe about God we will bury our God-given gift in the ground and miss out on the life God has planned of us.
When we start to lay down our preconceived ideas about God we’ll begin to see Him for who He really is: our loving Heavenly Father. We’ll stop believing that He sends hardships, and plans our failures in order to test and humble us. Instead we’ll know that every good and perfect gift comes from Him (James 1:17), and be confident that since He began a good work in us, He will bring it to completion (Philippians 1:6).