Where does anger come from?
There is anger that comes from pride. There is righteous anger at injustices and evil, and there is anger that comes from fear.
Many times anger grows out of a fear that we are the victims of injustices.We think that people are always plotting against us, talking about us behind our back or trying to give us less than we think we deserve.
This fear stops us from being able to see the good in anything, because we’re too busy trying to find out how we’re being shortchanged.
Consider this scenario: Let’s say you’ve been waiting on a promotion at work and it finally happens. This should be cause for celebration, but when you allow this anger to control you you’ll obsess over how you should’ve been promoted months ago rather than how you are being blessed with a promotion.
The problem with this kind of anger is that we devalue the blessing of God in our lives.
A few weeks ago we talked about how Eve was deceived into believing that the way God made her wasn’t good enough. What this fear-driven anger will do is look at what God has given us and say “It’s not good enough,” or “It should’ve happened earlier,” or “It’s not the way I wanted it to go.”
It saps the possible joy out of every good situation. Our lack of joy is always everyone else’s fault because we are convinced that the entire world is against us.
One name for this kind of fear could be a victim’s mentality.
It gives us an unwillingness to take responsibility for our own lives. It makes us like wild animals backed into a corner. The irony is that we put ourselves in the corner. So, we lash out at anyone who comes close to us.
It will ultimately make us unapproachable and lonely. All the while we will be fully assured of our lack of culpability in our own negative situation.
The cure for this is the very thing that anger robs us of: Joy.
Instead of looking for the negative in every positive, joy will shine a light on even the smallest good thing. It will look at the darkest of situations and magnify the possibility for God’s power and love to work.
If we read that last sentence and think, “That sounds nice, but I don’t have any joy,” we’re wrong.
The Bible shows us that joy is already ours.
“But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control; against such things there is no law,” (Galatians 5:22-23).
When we accept Jesus as our Lord and Savior He gives us the joy of the Lord. Our part is just to let it flow out of us. We have to make a conscious decision to stop seeing what’s wrong with everything and everyone and allow joy to be the lens through which we view our lives.
I encourage you to pray and ask your Heavenly Father to help you with this. It will definitely change your life.